Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Someone is buying someone's sandwich today.

Hola amigos! You've heard about paying it forward.

I just have to share what happened to me yesterday. 

About two months ago I was at a neighborhood sandwich shop.

I don't know, but I always tend to take way too much time thinking

about what I should order.

I think about the food selection in some quick detail.

I ask myself, if it's the healthiest thing on the menu, does what I am about

to eat have the least anount of calories, will it have less carbs etc...

I have great vision (thanks to PRK surgery from years ago), so no,

I never hold up the line.

I do have a great story to tell about a New York deli experience I once had, 

but I'll save that for another day.

Two brawny, serious looking young construction workers, with hard hats

in hands, bright vests and dusty steel toed boots were directly ahead of me. 

Then they ordered and begin rifling through their pockets,

and counting their money.

I waited patiently as they continued to look for the correct amounts. 

Then a strong urge came over me, one that commanded me to take my wallet

(I only had enough money for my sandwich), and take out my credit card.

I tapped one of them on the shoulder and said, "I'd like to pay for your lunches,

if you don't mind."

The two young men, looked at me as if I had lost my mind.

We quietly starred at each other for about 5 seconds.

Both of them sizing me up. One of them said, "Oh no sir, we couldn't

let you do that for us, but it's ok."

I told them, "Even if I insist on paying for both of you?"

They looked at me and then at each other in disbelief.

Then they shrugged their shoulders and with huge smiles on their faces said,

"Sir, no one has ever offerred to do that ever."

I shook their hands and said, "Promise me that you will think about

doing that for someone else one day."

We all got our food, went to different sides of the shop and the young men,

I noticed were talking about what had just happened, and they kept looking

in my direction while we all ate.

They kept smiling and nodding their heads at me.

One kept mouthing, "Thank you!"

As they got up to leave, they startled the ther patrons when they yelled

from one corner of the shop, "Thank you Sir! You made our day!"

Well yesterday I was at the same shop.

There I stood trying to figure out what I would eat, and asked the cashier

if she had ever tried one of the sandwiches I was thinking of trying.

A tall gentlemen was to my extreme left of the counter and lunged over

startling the cashier and I.

In his outstretched hand was a credit card.

He said, "I'm buying his lunch!"

I didn't recognize the young man right away, and responded,  

" Sir, that really nice of you, but I have money." 

The cashier looked at both of us somewhat confused.

He then looked at me and said, "Sir, you don't remember me, do you?"

I looked at him for what I thought was eternity, and finally placed him.

He was one of the two young men I had bought lunches for two months ago.

I smiled and answered, "Of course I do, now."

"I really appreciate the offer but it's ok."

He said, Sir you don't know what you meant for us that day." 

He nodded his head and quietly said, "Sir, I am 27 years old, and no one has

ever done that for me in my life."

"In fact, my friend and I both have paid it forward at least two times each."

At that point I felt an overwhelming sense of gratitude inside.

"We have a personal contest to see how many times we can do that for stangers

each pay day."

I shook his hand, and thanked him.

The cashier smiled at both of us and said, "You guys, I don't believe this is happening."

I smiled at her and then at the young man, and said "I don't either."

Inside I was bursting with a sense of joy and gratitude. 

I felt like I had just won the lotto. 

I thanked him again and as we left the shop, he came up and reached over,

and thanked me again.

He said, "Sir, God bless you."

We shook hands again, this time as friends. 

Make it a pay it forward sort of dia!

You will be glad you did.

Monday, January 30, 2012

Let's get going.

It's almost the end of the month already.

A new year to really make changes and transform your life.

What have you been putting off?

Are there any conversations you need to hold?

Maybe a leaps of faith idea that is needing you to muster

a bit more courage on?

What exactly is holding you back?

Now is the time to start that project.

Take that risk.

What would you want people to say about how you are living life?

Someone, somewhere is waiting on you to inspire them.

What difference could you be making in their lives?

In your own?

Life’s really is shorter than you think.

I want you to go out today and begin living the next 11 months with gusto!

Make a difference.

You matter.

What you say and do matters.

Make it a great día!

Sunday, January 29, 2012

Eres un buen amigo?

This came from an old readers digest.

But it is as true then as it is now.

Un Amigo de verdad... A TRUE FRIEND

 We could all stand to be better amigos.

(A)ccepts you as you are
(B)elieves in "you"
(C)alls you just to say "HI"
(D)oesn't give up on you
(E)nvisions the whole of you (even the unfinished parts)
(F)orgives your mistakes
(G)ives unconditionally
(H)elps you
(I)nvites you over
(J)ust "be" with you
(K)eeps you close at heart
(L)oves you for who you are
(M)akes a difference in your life
(N)ever Judges
(O)ffer support
(P)icks you up
(Q)uiets your fears
(R)aises your spirits
(S)ays nice things about you
(T)ells you the truth when you need to hear it
(U)nderstands you
(V)alues you
(W)alks beside you
(X)-plains things you don't understand
(Y)ells when you won't listen and
(Z)aps you back to reality

Make it a great amigo kind of dia!

Saturday, January 28, 2012

Grateful for "mimis."

I am more grateful today for last night's "mimis."

That was I word we used to say to our son when he was a baby.

I finally got a good night's rest last night.

I haven't had too manyy great sleep filled ones since our accident.

But last night's was the best one since the 11th.

As you know lack of sleep ends up not only physiologically effecting us,

but it negatively impacts 100% of the rest of our lives.

Research shows that in the short term our lack of restful sleep affects not only

our judgment, our mood, the ability to learn and retain information,

but can also increase the risks of having an accident,

especially if you commute to work like a lot of us do.

They also say that in the case of the chronically sleep deprived,

it can lead to a whole different set of health problems including your

increased probability for obesity, diabetes, depression, heart desease,

and other cardiovascular issues like high blood pressure,

but it can even kill you.

How much sleep do you need?

Experts estimate that preschoolers (3 to 5 years-old) need between 11-13

hours of sleep, while school-aged children up to age 12 need approximately

10-11 hours of sleep.

Our adolescents still need the most of at least nine hours every night.  

The rest of us adults need between 7 to 9 hours.

I am finding out that I have been in sleep debt mode for a long time.

So tonight I am headed to bed earlier.

Make it a great día - I already started mine on a more restful tone.

Friday, January 27, 2012

No sand bagging allowed.

Have you ever played hurt?

Not the injured in a football game hurt and went on and played your best game

with a broken collar bone hurt.

In life we get only the moments that we breathe to make a go of it.

I am talking about calling in sick when the real reason is that you may have

stayed out late and or had one too many.

Or not giving it 110% or living life with gusto, at 212 degrees.

Why would anyone want to undermine your best "self?"

Why would you want to be thought of as not being one to give their best?

Why would you want to be known for play down their talents?

Who wants to play small?

Play at the lower rung of your personal scale?

Why not play the role of the intelligent, capable and talented person

you really are? 

Otherwise all you are doing is living, or working a lie.

Make it a great día!

Thursday, January 26, 2012

Just take it on.

Sometimes we make life more difficult on ourselves.

It's easier to take short cuts but all the ones I ever took ended up

causing me more time and I even got lost on a couple.

Shortcuts are like risks, you have to learn to take them -

but be sure that they're of the calculated type.

Just do it and get it over with I've heard say.

It is true, and great advice if you ask me.

Make it a great día!

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Una tortuga.

I am still doing a bit of suffering.

My neck procedure just hasn't kicked in the way I had hoped.

But I am grateful for everything in spite of the current extreme discomfort.

I am of the belief that one has to sometimes ignore our personal struggles,

no matter what they are for the better good.

No, I am not saying to ignore your health, your personal pain and or suffering.

What we could all do a bit more of is put whatever it is we are going

through in perspective.

Try and put as much if not everything you have to face in relative terms.

I myself am a very simple and practical man.

A realist when it comes to life.

I know that it will take time and some suffering to get to where I am better.

To get to a point where I am healed. So do me a favor.. well first of all

don't come up and give me a friendly pat on the back..

but more importantly be patient.

I too like the tortuga am going as fast as I can for the moment.

If I am slightly slower, maybe even a tad bid less patient..

please understand I am not firing on all "Tomas" cylinders. 

Make it a great día!

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Be a seeker.

We need to all be seekers.

Not your ordinary run of the mill exploerers, but seekers with a purpose.

Whether you are a seeker of love, truth, or happiness.

You must do it as one with a sense of urgency and passion.

Don't ever allow any one or anything to deny you that right.

Our God created us with a devine path of enlightenment.

One that only through innocent but geniune purpose  we all can fulfill.

Begin today.

Move in the direction that is calling your name.

Make it a great dia!

Monday, January 23, 2012

It's all in the attitude.

Sorry about another late blog.

Getting going each morning has been harder lately.

I met with five brand new incoming employees today.

We spoke about my style of leadership.

The 212 degree philosophy and the importance of about

self accountability.

I think I even talked about Zig Ziglar's famous, "Your attitude determines

your altitude."

Actually he said, “Attitude, not Aptitude, determines Altitude” but the aptitude

as in any job, can be taught, one's attitude certainly can't.

I also gave them my "Agreement with myself" homework assignment.

It's a personal letter that they will have to write, I which they set out their

personal goals for the coming year.

They will each write one, have someone they love, or trust read it and than

they will seal it and place it in the self addressed envelope I provided. 

On Friday I will collect them and than next year at this same time I'll be mailing

it back to them.

It's something I have been doing personally since 1983.

A great friend and fellow office gave it to his cadre as homework.

It is a gift that I have kept on giving all these years no matter where I was

and whom I was leading.

You need to give this one a try.

Make it a great día!      

Sunday, January 22, 2012

The rent we all need to pay.

It's Sunday evening and I apologize for the late post.

I am still moving slower than I'd like.

I just got off the phone with one of my military nephews.

As you know I have three - two serving in the US Army and a niece in the US Marines.

Cristofer has always made it a point to stay in touch, no matter what part

of the world he finds himself in.

We were speaking about how grateful we both were that hopefully he will never

set foot on Iraqi soil again.

He has after all been there and done that three times.

But our conversation turned to sports and boxing, we both love boxing and soccer.

We also follow Saul "El Canelo" (cinnamon) Alvarez from Jalisco, Mexico.

He is a mopped haired, red headed upcoming and may I add very promising boxer. 

He is the light middle weight division champion of the world, and at 21 has

a very successful career ahead.

You need to watch this kid in action.

But than for some reason Ali was brought up.

You know the greatest fighter of all time, the "I float like a butterfly; I sting like a bee.

Nobody wants to mess with me because I am Muhammad Ali."

We spoke about how even though he refused to go to Vietnam,

(Ali showed up and also suffered the consequences of having refused to be drafted),

we agreed that he had done much more after being forced to retire.

If you remember he was stricken with Parkinson's, but that never slowed him down.

He has touched more lives and done more than he ever dreamed that he would

have during his exciting boxing career.

His foundation The Muhammad Ali Parkinson Center (MAPC),

and Movement Disorders Clinic is a National Parkinson Foundation

Center of Excellence.

It was set up specifically to benefit people with Parkinson's and their families.

But Ali has been involved in fighting hunger and responsible for having served

over 232 million meals worldwide, he has worked on other charitable

sustentation drives; including raising money for AIDS, homelessness,

fighting for human Rights, and improving adult literacy.

I have always admired him, I know him for having once said,

"Service to others is the rent we pay for our room here on earth."

What are we waiting for?

Make it a día of service to another! 

Saturday, January 21, 2012

Watch the current..

"Camarón que se duerme se lo lleva la corriente."

It's a New Year and like I've been telling my folks,

"We're going to make it a break through year!"

Time to get it in gear if you haven't.

By the way the literal meaning of this old Spanish saying is,

"The sleeping shrimp gets swept away by the current."

Don't let that happen to you.

Quit taking things for granted,

we can't keep making an effort.

For like this saying goes,

the unwary are overtaken by circumstance or progress.

Don't rest on your laurels.

Make everything you do count.

Success is cumulative!

We have to think 212 degrees!

Make every day count.

We have to not only make it a break through year,

but a transformational year.

Done with the mindset and a new year to really put

our 212° thinking to work.

Make it a great dia!

Friday, January 20, 2012

Never fear to give it all..

Our capacity to love another comes from many of our own life's experiences.

Each experience is cumulative.

One thing I have come to know is that love has always helped me overcome

any heartache, grief, painful or traumatic experience.

Love has to begin within us.

And although it may begin with us, it needs to be shared.

Loving with all the force and power that you can muster.

To love openly, unconditionally and shamelessly so that those you love

feel your warmth even when you are gone.

We all have a deeper capacity to love.

Don't be afraid to show it.

Never doubt that your love can't be felt, heard or sensed..

because it is.

Make it a loving día!

Thursday, January 19, 2012

A hidden blessing.


I awake to another day of stiffness and upper cervical pain.

I did rest better last night.

I guess our pain is there to remind us of better things and times to come.

My Viejita was a very noble and fearless woman.

My Mother to her credit and last breath never once complained.

She faced her cancer bravely and head on.

She always was able to take things in stride.

No matter the size of the on coming challenge.

I remember as a little boy, I had fallen out of one of our apple trees.

I took a goof fall and skinned my hands and knees.

She came over and cleaned me up, hugged me and said that a little bit

of pain was good for us.

"It's God's way of saying you are alive."

I didn't understand the analogy then but came to understand it later.

We all face some sort of pain or struggle.

The greatest feeling is one where we've overcome an obstacle.

Pain is a hidden blessing.

Without the struggle, the challenge, the hurt we would never come

to understand fear.

I also believe that without fear, we would never know how to recognize

the pain we can cause others or ourselves for that matter.

Fear allows us understanding of how we can feel "compassion."

Thanks for your e-mails and calls.

Make it a great día!

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Pink champagne

Up early.. very early.

Still aching over the neck procedure and wondering when it will ease up some.

I have had time to listen to more music and write less.

I was listening to the radio last night and came across one called

pink champagne.

Not the Joe Liggins' 1950 song, no this oe is from a young lady by the

name of Kathleen Edwards.

I liked the music and the lyrics; the song speaks to heartache and self-doubt.

Pink Champagne takes place at a wedding where a young bride is

second-guessing her decision.

It wasn't about a divorce, it's spoke to me about re-examining where we are in life.

We all make mistakes but it's how well we figure them out learn from them

that make us better.

Music has always been a large part of my life.

To this day it's one of my de-stressers.

Make it a great día!