Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Leadership laughter?

I spent last week at Leadership School.

We learned a lot about leading through example,

about being the importance of effective leadership.

I also found an ingredient that our staff of trainers used throughout

the coursework, levity and laughter.

To me laughter has always been an emergent property

of a great place to work.

My agents work hard but they also know that they can count on me

to bring positive energy and laughter to our large team.

It tells them that its ok to be professional and have fun.

To me  its important that we have a strong sense of camaraderie.

People want to feel as though what they do matters.

To know that they are making a contribution to important work.

My also want my agents laugh frequently.

I enjoy that.

I listen.

If ever I stop hearing their laughter,

than I won't have to wonder why..

to know why.

Make it a great día!

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Know what to repeat..

We may think that what we heard is important to share or re-tell.

I read this fable and would like to share it with you -

The young man went to visit his wise mentor.

Upon arriving the young man tells the mentor,

"Wise man, some friends of mine were speaking badly of you.

"One moment," the wise man told the young man.

Did you pass what you are about to tell me

through the three gates?"

"The three gates?," the young man asked.

The wise man quietly looked up to him and answered, "Yes."

"First of all, is what you heard the TRUTH?"

The young man hesitated and answered,

"Not exactly, I heard it from the someone who over heard them." 

"So you made sure to pass what you heard

through the second gate, the gate of KINDNESS?,"

the wise man asked.

The young man looked down and in a hestitating whisper

answered, "No."

"Now was what you were wanting to share with me,

was it positive?

Would it be good for anybody to hear?," the wise man asked.

"No, on the contrary…", the young man answered.

"The last gate is an important one that requires words to pass through."

"Ask yourself, is it necessary to let others know

what it is about what one hears, that troubles us so?," the wise man said.

The young man, answered, "To tell you the truth, no, not at all." 

The wise man ended the conversation by smiling and said,

"Then if it is not TRUE, and its neither POSITIVE or GOOD,

and not necessary, we must forget it and bury it and never speak of it again."

Make it a great día!

Monday, August 29, 2011

Through the peephole.

Do you ever find yourself looking outward rather than inward?

In my experience, I have found that the answer I am usually looking for -

is there within me.

We tend to allow our lives to get so busy that we fail to really look around us,

to listen, accept and process the information swirling all around us.

Doing so will often result in our over reacting or needless blaming.

I have found that when we are quick to accuse,

or complain about another, we are really putting ourselves

into that irresponsible role of the victim.

Doing this also makes for self imposed limitations.

Not acknowleding that our own failure are keeping us from seeing

our whole selves.

Limiting who we are truly capable of being and becoming.

This form of thinking also creates judgment.

It develops through our rather inflexible

mindset that is sure to keep us from growing.

Which one would you rather expererience?

By having a closed mindset we are keeping ourselves from our

own potential and our own personal growth.

Live - Love - Grow!

Make it a great día!

Sunday, August 28, 2011

My recent leadership training...

Having been in the military and learned a lot about leadership, so I'd like to spend a couple of blogs, sharing some of what I have learned, practiced and successfully translated into the civilian world for you.

As a LEADER you have to be passionate about developing others.

Your goal as a leader is to teach your folks that whatever setbacks they experience, they are not permanent, are temporary setbacks, and not to be taken personal.

Your ability to help them take reasonable risks, and to take positive, constructive action, even accepting the consequences of their behavior, learning to course correct, and course correct again.. but never giving up is success.

Achieving success comes from working through one's value system, and imparting our character.

The word, “character” is from a Latin root that means “engraved”.

A life, like a block of granite can either be carved with care or hacked at with reckless disregard.

In the end it will either be a masterpiece or just a marred piece of rubble.

There are six elements that I believe strongly make a great leader:





Honesty and


I am sure there are many more but these are the ones I live by.

A type of genuine, spontaneous act of self-sacrificial concern for the defenseless.

It is the willingness to act out of conviction rather than of feeling.

I have seen both, leaders who felt quite fearless but act in a cowardly fashion and others who were fearful but always behaved with incredible courage.

Courageous leaders inspire their people and teams to achieve incredible new heights.

It's the foundation for creating teams of 212 degree thinkers, of the “will do” and “must do” kind of people.
Next is loyalty, but sometimes we wonder where all the loyalty went?

Loyalty is the very fabric of community. Relationships can't be bought, bribed or will prosper if there is no trust to glue the feeling of mutuality of commitment.

Loyalty is the willingness to deflect praise, admiration and success onto others without hesitating.

It is a two-way street and must function both upwardly and downwardly.

Have you ever been in a situation where you had to willing allow your boss to take the credit while sometimes taking the blame?

Another important character ingredient is diligence.

There are no short cuts, quickest, or easiest ways to producing the greatest returns.

To achieve anything worthwhile you must understand that there are no substitutes for hard work.

You have top lead by example, be a steady performer, remembering that the steady performer is a finisher.

Great leaders are accountable and take their obligations and responsibilities seriously.

One needs to be held accountable and follow-through on all of our obligations.
Modesty to some of us may mean living within our limits.

Modest leaders see fiscal and operational constraints as safeguards and not hindrances.

They are the opposite of boldness and arrogance.

They are confident but they recognize that they are also not too good, too big, too powerful to be open to the views and perspective of others.

I've achieved a lot of great results and outcomes having adopted a more modest, calm and self-accepting approach when handling big challenges.
The next is honesty.

We can have a shrewd business sense but it is very different from a dishonest one.

However, it is not nearly as fine as we think.

Honesty has always helped me build relationships, teamwork, and open and positive energy.

Sure I have missed out on a deal because I chose to not allow my people to use deception to win.

We are tasked to create an environment in which we promote a truthful, above-board, honest existence.

My blog has always spoken to gratitude. I have great respect and appreciation for both the positive and negative experiences I have lived.

At my core I understand that the very essence of who I am is inextricably tied to the sum of those very experiences.

It is sometimes a batting average.

Where we are unwilling to see the value in experiencing setbacks.

Gratitude teaches us to be appreciative when the “hit” actually occurs.

Gratitude is providing praise and recognition to others in a selfless way.

To show honest gratitude to everyone that you lead, and watch them grow and develop into the best that they are capable of becoming.

Make it a great leadership kind of día!

Saturday, August 27, 2011

My backyard universe.

I awaken before the dawn every day - an old habit fro my military days..

I quietly walk around my back yard and than I sit by my bird tree.

I call it my bird tree because it has twelve birdhouses of all shapes

and sizes hanging in it.

In the winter the smart ones that refuge in them and create their winter homes.

Each morning, as I quietly listen for the world to come alive,

I receive a greeting from the universe.

Most mornings the universe reminds me that I am the creator of my own reality show

and that the life of my dreams is just a thought away.

Sometimes the universe reminds me that the people in my life are teachers

and all the so-called “problems” are opportunities for growth and development.

Lately I have an ample assortment of these type of challenges.

Through the years of the Universe has also taught me that thoughts

can sometimes become things.

Yesterday was no exception, I received a message from the universe:

Hola Tomás, ever notice that in the long run, those who don’t eventually go “within,”

often go “without.”

Be the essence - seek your essence - show you power.

Make it a great día!

Friday, August 26, 2011


There are a lot of things that are good for us.

Like eating your veggies, flossing and wearing your seat belt.

But LOVE certainly trumps them all.

To be in LOVE is to fill your heart with the best stuff life has to offer.

And that can only do wonderful things for you and your life.

What you’ll put your attention on is always your choice.

You can spend countless hours bemoaning this or that,

expressing regret or cultivating spite.

You can be a person that brings others down through your words,

actions or energy.

Or, you can make the choice to put your attention on something more

much more deserving.

And you can become that ray of sunshine that brightens up the world

by your very presence.

When we’re in LOVE, it’s a whole lot easier to do that.

So please, fall in LOVE. 

If not with another person, fall in LOVE with yourself,

or the world around you.

The world needs more sunshine. 

Be that ray of light in someone's life.

Make it a great día!

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

What are you seeking?

Yesterday we got into a discussion about perception and how we see things and are seen.

I had to ask a few of these same questions to you.

Did you know that we’re 1% visible and 99% invisible?

Why, then, do we often spend so much of our energy and effort on that 1%?

Did you know that sorrow is sweet?

When we suffer, there is the opportunity to transcend the suffering

and move to a higher level of awareness.

Suffering illuminates an area in which we haven’t evolved.

Did you know that we’re not bothered by what happens,

so much as we are bothered by our opinions of what happens?

Nothing is bad or good or indifferent without you judging it as so.

And the exciting news is we can change those opinions easily.

Choose your opinions wisely.

Did you know that the best way to hold on,

is to let go?

Did you know that if you do what you’ve always done,

you’ll get what you’ve always gotten?

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again

and expecting a different result.

Step into the unknown, if it truly is change that you are seeking.

Make it a great día!

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Texas HEAT.

Texas is still having the 100 plus days, something we have all somewhat

grown to live with.

I actually quit counting at 142nd day.

Most days the temperature is over 104 degrees and as high as 109.

Dallas seems to generate heat like no other place in the world.

Maybe it is due to all the buildings and freeways and lack of green ways.

So thanks to the lack of greenery and vegetation, the paved surfaces below

us just absorb all the heat and share it with the rest of us.

At 6:00 this morning the Mercury was already topping the

82 degree Fahrenheit mark!

It’s pretty much all people talk about these days.

Funny though, you can say the same thing about our attitudes

toward weather that you could say about anything else in life.

Just like rainy days or sunshine, our time on Earth will be full of ups and down.

People with positive attitudes aren’t people that don’t experience the downs,

they’re just people who realize that our reactions to life’s turbulence are choices.

You can greet the hot weather with anger and resistance,

or you can make the most of it.

Either way, it’s still going to be hot and sweaty out there.

And if you’re going to be a hot and sweaty,

you might as well be happy hot sweaty.

Try and stay as cool as you can.

Make it a great día!

Monday, August 22, 2011

Grudges are squatters?

One thing I've learned a long time ago is that we have to learn to let go of grudges.

The only thing that they do well is sabotage us.

They tend to take up space in our heads - they are squatters!

Living rent free in our minds - and undermining us at every step.

By allowing ourselves to hold on to grudges,

we enabling negative energy, and even anger and hate within.

When we allow negativity, hate or anger in our hearts, we tend to

let these emotions seep into our lives and end up

unknowingly sharing them with others around us.

I have also found that by holding grudges, we stunt our growth and

limit the possibilities in our lives.

Life is just too short for holding grudges.

Its not easy letting go of something that may have long lived within us.

So begin today by letting just one of them go.

Think in terms of recognizing that maybe the situation couldn’t

have unfolded any differently.

That given the sum total of all the influencing factors in the parties involved.

One other tip, is to recognize that no one can hurt you without your permission,

(that is, a perspective of life that tends to keep you from being hurt).

Recognize that all of our challenges are learning experiences,

and by moving on, or letting go we are allowing ourselves to grow.

There is no amount of pain or struggle that will ever change

our past; work to use your energy on more positive,

and redeemable areas of your life instead.

Make it a great día!

Did you know?

I wanted to write some "Did you know?" comments and I hope you will

join me in writing your own as well.

Here's what I know…

Did you know that love at some point is the answer to everything? 

Did you know that you could save the world in small doses

and you could continue to do this for the rest of your life?

On a more personal note:

Did you know that my Viejita was a very big influence in my life?

Did you know that I always get everything I wanted because I will never give up?

Did you know that I’m as strong as a solid metal wall yet sensitive

as a dandelion?

Did you know that I was the top euphonium player at the age of 16?

Did you know that I believe in true love?

Did you know that I’m obsessed with pumas and the flora

in the sierras of Sonora?

Did you know that one hand can heal another?

That just one spark can start a fire?

With one little action, the chain reaction will never stop.

What are you waiting for?

Make it a great día!

Sunday, August 21, 2011

Confucius "say" you have heart as big as Texas.







I love Chinese food, especially very spicy shrimp fried rice.

I also look forward to reading the sayings inside the Fortune Cookies:

Here are some really funny sayings from fortune cookies:
  • A closed mouth gathers no feet. 
  • A conclusion is simply the place where you got tired of thinking.
  • A cynic is only a frustrated optimist.
  • A fanatic is one who can't change his mind, and won't change the subject.  
  • Do not mistake temptation for opportunity.
  • He who laughs at himself never runs out of things to laugh at.
  • He who throws dirt is losing ground. 
  • Some men dream of fortunes, others dream of cookies.
  • The world may be your oyster, but it doesn't mean you'll get its pearl. 
  • You will be hungry again in one hour.  
  • Confucius say: if you think you’re going to sum up your whole life on
          this little bit of paper, you’re crazy.

The following fortunes were actually found in fortune cookies but they are not typical.

They are a bit strange but they are still funny fortune cookie sayings:
  • A starship ride has been promised to you by the galactic wizard.
  • A tub and a rub will change your day.
  • Because of your melodic nature, the moonlight never misses an appointment.
  • Confucius say you have heart as big as Texas.
  • Don’t behave with cold manners. 
  • Don’t forget you are always on our minds.  
  • It’s about time I got out of that cookie.
  • Never forget a friend. Especially if he owes you.
  • Suppose you can get what you want.
  • That wasn’t chicken.  (I threw that one in).

  • Make it a great dia! 

Saturday, August 20, 2011

They say it's 50-50..

Have you ever heard that for any relationship to work,

 it requires is takes a give and take?

Or that a great relationship is a 50-50 collaboration?

Judaism says that a loving relationship is giving and giving and giving ...

and never keeping score.

I like that way of thinking.

The key to loving is not necessarily receiving but giving.

To give is to love.

Maybe that explains why our parents feel so much more strongly

for their children than how their chldren love them back.

The parents have been steadily giving to their children all their lives.

To somehow believe that we only love the person who gives

to us is not only shallow but not love.

That's almost self-love.

I believe that we love the people we give to.

Just remember - to NOT keep score.

Make it a great dia!