Sunday, July 31, 2011

Can you see the invisible?

"Only those who see the invisible can do the impossible," I once read.

What situation or problem would you change?

What  do you think you are powerless over?

I believe in personal transformative change.

The power of one's thinking and the ability to change our Lives.

If you could change your thinking about whatever it is that troubles you,

that keeps you awake at night… 

you could change how you believe -

and in doing so you could help transform any situation.

Attitude is the essence of motivation and motivation inspires action.

What is keeping you from giving more?

More effort to your studies, to your job to your relationship?

You have everything you need in you to change. No one is stopping you.

The only obstacle is your thinking.

Get moving.

Make it a great día

Saturday, July 30, 2011

Resentment is poison.

My Viejita was a very forgiving soul.

She had many experiences that in retrospect could have been

prime causes for some degree of resentfulness.

Yet she said that there were no good reasons to ever be resentful.

Situations and experiences just didn't justify having resentments

or being resentful. 

She taught us to be more forgiving.

That the only thing we would earn from being resentful

was negativity. 

It held us back from learning from the situation,

and limited our own ability to forgive and move on. 

We will all endure tough times and difficult moments.

Some of these moments will come with hurt,

and we will all experience heartache.

In those situations we have to take time to  process our feelings

of hurt and betrayal. 

What we can't allow them to however;

is to let them consume us. 

We have to release the anger, and any resentment that we are feeling. 

As difficult as it may seem at first -

it is completely doable.

For by doing so we are able to reclaim our lives,

and than move forward. 

Soon we will realize that the very thing we once resented

is the thing we are most grateful for. 

Make it a forgiving día!

Friday, July 29, 2011


You might have thought I was going to blog about the song.

My son once asked me what meant more to me - admiration or respect.

I thought about it and answered, that it would be nice

"to be liked" or "admired."

I mean who doesn't like to be liked and admired.

"No," I said, "I would rather be able to earn respect."

Respect was always an important topic of discussion at our house

growing up.

Coming from very humble beginnings - our word,

and our integrity were all we had.

My Father would say, "If there is one thing I can teach you,

it would be to learn to show respect for others.

We don’t need to like them all or even feel they are deserving of our respect,

but our behavior should always be a respectful one."

He would add, "No matter your size or money in your pocket,

you'll be seen as the bigger person."

Be that bigger person today.

Make it a great día!

Thursday, July 28, 2011


Why would we purposely allow people, places and things to cause

our lives to become cluttered?

Why do we hold on to unnecessary baggage?

To unhealthy relationships.

Bad habits?

If you could quickly unclutter your life - where would you begin?

Some theories talk about our inability to let go.

Psychologists say it's about fear of change.

Fear of the unknown.

So if we are to unclutter our lives, we must be empowered.

Empowering ourselves to deal with the excess baggage we

have allowed to encroach out lives.

The weighted relationships that we are dragging along.

We have to learn to deal with certain people and not allowing them

to encroach or violate our boundaries.

Same goes for places and things that we have allowed dominion

over our emotions.

We teach others how to treat us.

So again we have to be empowered and take a stand.

It is after all time to take back our space, our life.

It will take time to declutter our lives.

After all it took time to clutter them.

In order to move forward we will need to focus on three

important areas:

how we think,

how we act,

and how we feel.

Thoughts, actions and emotions.

Seems like a heavy order.

No heavier than what we've been lugging around all this time though.

We have to change our way of thinking,

change the way we typically do things,

and change our way of feeling towards things.

It starts right now.

Make it an empowered día!

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Did I understand you correctly?

To avoid misunderstandings one should work to work to "understand,"

rather than be "understood."

We all have been there… we know how it feels to have a misunderstanding. 

When something is miss- communicated.

One minute you are thinking or doing something well,

and the very next moment you are in the middle of a disagreement.

Sometimes you get caught up feeling as if you were dis-respected. 

At that very instant, you have a choice to pretend everything is okay or

you can discuss it and work it out.

You decide what approach will allow you two to understand

where each of you were coming from.

But the initial state of being must be one that comes from a "an ego-less" state.

One where you are not feeling that your ego is under attack. 

After all it was a miss-communication.

Was there any malicious intent?

Was it an honest "jump to conclusion" on anyone's side?

We all have the right to be respected, but more important

we must all work to be respectful. 

Don't ever automatically take offense - or jump to a conclusion.

It is amazing how we feel as if we are being disrespected,

then we instantly have the right to be disrespectful. 

If you react from a different state of being, you will be able to

get to the source of the misunderstanding much faster.

Next time take a moment and try and understand the other point of view,

before you try and make your point.


Make it a great día!

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Grateful for TIME.

One of the hardest lessons I have had to learn along the way is

how to appreciate the essence of time.

How to truly value time. 

Time much like the sand in an hour glass, never stops flowing.

Steadily moving with each grain of sand.. disappearing,

much..  like the breath you just took.

The same breath never to be yours again.

Time really is precious.

I found this in an old reader's digest with an unknown author by it:

To realize the value of ONE YEAR, ask a student who failed a grade.

or the value of ONE MONTH, ask a mother who gave birth to

a premature baby.

or the value of ONE WEEK, ask the editor of a weekly newspaper.

or the value of ONE HOUR, ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.

or the value of ONE MINUTE, ask a person who missed the bus.

or the value of ONE SECOND, ask a person who just avoided an accident.

or the value of ONE MILLISECOND, ask the person who won a

silver medal in the Olympics.

Sure put TIME in perspective... and made me appreciate it that much more.

Make it a timeless día!

Monday, July 25, 2011

Is it YOU in your corner?

We can be our best friend or our own worst enemies. 

Who would you rather have in your corner?

Think about the last time you found yourselves in the depth

of a challenging situation.

Was it is a difficult personal relationship or some failure in your career? 

Maybe you miss your goal by an inch or were enduring financial difficulties. 

It's easier to look for reasons as to why we aren’t where we want to be.

We might even try to convince ourselves with the many excuses as to

why something just hasn’t worked out for us. 

This is when you need a friend in your corner.

The positive "you" that is needed to help and support you

while you are taking the needed steps to move on.

Next time you find yourself deep in sorrow, frustration or despair,

take a deep breath. 

Next take one step that will put you on the road back to taking control.

We may not be in control over the situation, but we can

certainly be in control of our attitude and approach.

You are in charge of what decisions to take,

and what you are going to do about it.

Make it a great día! 

Sunday, July 24, 2011

Time for what is important..

It's already Sunday.

Weekends go by flying.

Then some days move at a snail's pace. 

Wouldn't it be great if we could slow down the fast ones and speed

up the slow ones?

So that nice relaxing days wouldn't go by without us fully enjoying them? 

Lately I have been working too many hours - although I am getting

a lot done,

I realize that I may not be delegating as much as I could be.

These days time seems to be constantly zipping by me. 

If I am to enjoy Life more or share more of the good times with my

family I have to prioritize.

Yes, prioritize my Life better.

It begins by segmenting my day and my evenings -

ensuring that what is most important takes precedence over what is not.

Stop and take inventory of everything and everyone that matters.

Take a moment to enjoy what you have now. 

Realize that these moments have no guarantees and that the only

sure time we have, is now. 

Take time to share your thoughts, your love and friendship now.

I would not save them for another day. 

Go over and tell those you love what they mean to you this very instant.

Make it a great día!

Saturday, July 23, 2011

Its going to hurt.

 Our congressional leaders have been meeting since 11:00 EST.

Their urgent talks are aimed at averting a default on the U.S. debt.

We need to raise the country's $14.3 trillion debt ceiling.

This isn't the first time that this ceiling has been raised.

18 times under President Reagan alone and 89 total times.

However; its no longer about ideologies folks.. 

Our lawmakers and government are showing their inability

to build consensus and do right by its people.

They forget that it is the people that brought them to offfice,

and it is the people that can vote them out.

They have to realize that their words, and inaction and sending 

out incredibly "irresponsible" signals to the world. 

That they can't agree on the issues is one thing, but 

that they can't negotiate truly is unsettling.

Our Republican lawmakers continue to refuse to raise the debt ceiling

without a major reduction in the deficit.

Their plan is intended to accomplish the reduction through

budget cuts alone.

Our Democrats however; insist on increasing tax revenue,

and reducing certain entitlements.

The U.S. Treasury Department, the central bank, and hundreds of

economists have all warned a default would have catastrophic

consequences on the economy.

And not just our economy but have a very negative effect on the global one.

Today I am praying for clarity of mind and hearts and that the

people that we sent to Washington do the right thing.

There is no time for polarized policies and politics.

The American people deserve better.

There is still time to call or write your elected officials!

Make it a great dia.

Friday, July 22, 2011

I appreciate you!

Have you ever questioned the need to be GRATEFUL,

or why it’s even important? 

Especially those days that are extremely difficult, where it's just easier

to take stay under the covers or take something for granted? 

The type of day where it's time to clock out - the end of our

work day has come..  and all we are leaving with

are complaints, and disatisfaction. 

Ever stop and wonder why you’re not happy, not successful, not living

the best life we could be living?

This is your wake up call.

Think about it, you've been given life, family, friendships,

relationships, health, community, and so much more. 

You have a job, are in school or at home taking care of your family.

It’s vital to be grateful.

As important as breathing.

GRATEFUL for the good times and the bad. 

Yes, sometimes life may feel like it's overwhelming. 

But whether it be relationship troubles, poor health, the loss of a job,

or a life crisis – you can come out of it. 

You can see the light at the end.


Think positive.

Who supported you during your rough times? 

Hard times don’t always make sense, but I guarantee you they will make

you question your perception of reality. 

Take a second and think about everything you learned

from these tough times.

What can you do different next time?

What have you learned?

It could have been much worse.


“Make it a habit to tell people "thank-you!".

Express your appreciation, sincerely and without the expectation of anything

in return and do it often.

Truly appreciate those around you, and you’ll soon find many others

around you that feel the same way.

It's time to truly appreciate!

Make it a GRATEFUL dia!

Thursday, July 21, 2011

Need a free fill-up?

Need a fill-up on GRATITUDE?

That rate never goes up in price.

Are you only grateful when something fortunate happens?

Possibly only feel happy when things are going well? 

What about when a troubles or challenges appear?

Do you forget how you felt just prior to the negative experience? 

No one has to wait to feel grateful.

Feeling blessed comes from within. 

From a gentle nudge from a loved one, to having good health.

Each day we are given another opportunity to go after our dreams,

to correct our mistakes, to explore opportunities,

and all of Life's endless possibilities.

We're each given another day to show our appreciation and love

toward ourselves and the people around us.

Are you taking anyone or anything for granted?

Look around, be grateful for all the good that is happening around you.

See what and who is showing up in your life.

Then at different times of your day, stop and give thanks.

Before you head off to sleep give thanks for whatever moved you closer

toward your goals or helped you grow personally.

So what if it wasn't all that great a day.

Stay positive, find a lesson in the experience.

Encourage yourself quietly and make whatever it is, better the next time.

To be positive you must change the image in the mirror.

How do you see yourself?

When you start believing that you have reasons to be grateful for,

you will feel more positive, happier and grateful.

The next time you feel that you have no reason to feel grateful,

get out and get to know a homeless person.

Visit an elderly relative, or someone at a nursing home.

Think of ways that you can help make someone happier.

Your acts of kindness and generosity will go a long ways in making you

feel whole, happier and more grateful.

Make it a grateful kind of dia!

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

An extra degree of effort..

We all tend to learn from one another.

People at their core are constantly looking for ways to be more successful.

To improve and to demonstrate to others and themselves that

their contribution matters.

At my office my large team of colleagues are coming to understand

just how important

it is to give an extra degree of effort.

To ensure that they have done all they can for the day,

and then take one more productive action before gong home.

It is thinking along the lines of the "212 degrees" philosophy. 

Always doing more, trying just a little bit harder each and every time.

Taking the 211 degree mentality and increasing it to 212 degrees.

You've heard about the 212 philosophy?

If you haven't let me quote it.

I reccomend you put it to good use in everything you do.. 

"At 211 degrees, water is hot.. but at 212 it creates steam and steam

creates power.

Power that moves a steamship across the globe, and can even

create electricity."

It's all about second efforts.

Its all about caring enough to, to do just a little more.

I've learned that life is great about giving us a second chance.

But I've also learned that making a "living," has never been

the same as making a "life."

We have to make sure we are putting into Life, as much as we

are expecting to recieve. 

The bigger the effort - the greater the results.

Like you may have heard it tell, "You can't go through life with a

catcher's mitt on both hands.

To stay in the game, you need to be able to throw something back."

In Life, I aim to go hard at it the entire game.

I intend to play the entire 9 innings and extra ones if needed.

I am in it to win, are you?

Make it a great extra effort kind of día.