Thursday, June 30, 2011

Create a new you!

Here are some of my all time favorite "CHANGE" quotes..

"The key to change... is to let go of fear." - Rosanne Cash

"If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got." - Anon

"When people are ready to, they change. They never do it before then, and sometimes they die before they get around to it. You can't make them change if they don't want to, just like when they do want to, you can't stop them." - Andy Warhol

"Be the change you want to see in the world." - Mahatma Gandhi

"Things do not change; we change." - Henry David Thoreau

"When you're finished changing, you're finished." - Benjamin Franklin

"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves." - Victor Frankl

"Without accepting the fact that everything changes, we cannot find perfect composure. But unfortunately, although it is true, it is difficult for us to accept it. Because we cannot accept the truth of transience, we suffer." - Shunryu Suzuki

 "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude." - Maya Angelou

"Life belongs to the living, and he who lives must be prepared for changes." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

"The only way to make sense of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance." - Alan Watts

"The world hates change, yet it is the only thing that has brought progress." - Charles Kettering
- Norman Vincent Peale

"Change your thoughts and you change your world."

"We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us." - Joseph Campbell

And my three most favorite "CHANGE" quotes..

"It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for it to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad." - C. S. Lewis

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." - St. Francis of Assisi

"If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading." - Lao Tzu

Make it a great dia for changing you!

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Are you a good amigo?

I was trying to put a list together of what traits

make up a good friend.

The first one that came ot mind was...

Someone who will listen attentively even if its about the problems you had at work.

The really good friends will listen attentively as you vent..

and then turn the conversation into something more interesting.

Maybe even suggest something fun to do, like going out for a sundae.

And of course a true friend will always tell you when you have spinach stuck in your teeth.

A good friend will tell you when you're making a fool of yourself.

or even say, "Well I would have donated that kidney whether you needed it or not …”

Do you have that special friend in your life?

If you have someone that fits the bill in your circle, then you are pretty blessed.

If you don't than I would start being that kind of friend.

Make it a great día!

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

If I could just change?

"What could I do to change my life?

I am sure that you've asked yourself that same question before.

Whether wanting to change bad habits such as smoking, alcohol

or eating too manysweets,

possibly a job that has become intolerable, even a long term relationship.

Maybe it's something that is no longer meeting your needs or just something

in your life that seems to need a change for the good.

We all know that change is not easy.

Especially changing the way we are used to living. 

Now that requires a lot of patience and persistence.

Taking that first step means realizing that change will take

some degree of self sacrifice.

It will cause us to feel a mix of emotions.

After all we are leaving something behind, sometimes more comfortable,

but still it’s a personal separation of sorts.

Even if we know darn well that it has been hurting us, devastating us

or we know it is just not good for us.

It has been a part of us, it's familiar, comfortable, enjoyable,

and or perhaps even something that we have come to love.

Yet all change is possible.

Even if we have tried many times and never achieved it.

Many of us have set ambitious targets for the day, week, month or the year.

Yet after a few days or a few weeks we end up with a bitter taste of failure.

What seems as a permenant set back that stays deep within us.

Still the reason we fail is because we've set up too high of an expectation.

Where we haven't allowed ourselves to be happy and enjoy the smaller successes.

So we forget and Instead of celebrating the small successes,

we punish ourselves with negative thoughts.

Thoughts that soon create doubt, that end up making it difficult for us to continue.

We tend to all want things now.

We want to see changes now

And yet when we see that our dreams are not being realized quick enough,

we abandon our efforts altogether and return to our old habits.

Why? Because it's easier!

That is how we've conditioned ourselves to do in the past.

But changing something in your life is truly a process,

and any change will take time.

It is a lifestyle change.

Long-term change success is a process that will require persistence,

patience, and much determination.

If we are to change some of those bad habits such as smoking,

daily high alcohol consumption, or prescription abuse, our poor diet

or our sedentary lifestyle..

we have to change the way we approach life.

The first step we need to take is to begin thinking that change is possible,

seeing our new selfs, that we can change.

We have to be positive.

Always be self-affirming.

Reminding ourselves that we can do this!

The next step is to plan and set goals.

We have to have a plan.

One that sets up the steps and or daily accountable points in our journey.

 You can do what I have done, and start by making it a part

of your daily schedule.

Write down reminders - tape them on the bathroom mirror

or even better if you can laminate them, and then stick them up where

you will see them daily in your shower. 

We have to make the time for our own personal development.

Transforming our thoughts into self-improvement actions.

Start by simpliying the daily routine, which will result in further time savings

needed for our personal development.

We have to start dreaming about what our new life will look like!
We must make time and really remind ourself throughout the day of that new life. 

Never ever stop dreaming!

Just what would you like to achieve in your life, your relationships and your career?

Work out all the details in your mind.

Visualize them, and think about all the rewards to come.

This step will make us feel better about the challenges we may begin

experiencing and help us stay on track and reach our goals.

If you begin to doubt ourself in any way STOP!

Think away any negative thoughts and fears.

Forget any past set backs and think of each step as being one step closer

to the goal or dream.

Change is about taking control of our life, it's one moment,

one day and one step at a time.

Eventually we will be able to change our lifestyle, and begin enjoying and living

the life that we've only dreamed about.

Make it a great "CAN DO" kind of día!

Monday, June 27, 2011

Who are you preparing?

We've all heard the refrain, that we will all get the most out of our lives

if we can leave this earth having made a difference in just one person.

I have been mentored throughout my life and have always tried to pay it forward.  

I believe we must approach this challenge with a generous spirit and giving mind.

We need to help other people, as we were once helped ourselves.

Whether at the office, at school or at home we must do our share of mentoring.

So your job and mine, is to take someone's personal or professional development seriously.

It must also be an ongoing and continuous process.

A process that is seen by both the mentor and those being

mentored as true growth opportunities for all.

It’s the "pay it forward" process of preparing the people that will one day take our place.

Although it may seem slow and sometimes painful to sit back,

and observe them as they begin their process…

there is no painless way to develop anyone.

These could very well be the people who will one day follow in our footsteps.

Or better yet reach greater heights and become tomorrow's leaders.

"If I accept you as you are, I will  make you worse; however if I treat you as though
you are what you are capable of becoming, I help you become that." - Thomas J. Watson 

Make your actions count - make it a great día!

Sunday, June 26, 2011

Suffering has purpose.

Have you ever asked yourself why you suffer?

My life, like anyone elses' has had it share of struggles, a few of my

own making.

So I'll give credit where credit is due.

Yet the successes that came from those struggles have brought

me pleasure, comfort and reward.

Many experiences that taken as a whole, made me who I am today.

I owe much of what I have accomplished to these very life’s struggles.

So why do we suffer?

We all are who we are today, not because of our near perfect childhoods,

perfect parents or the most supportive family or friends. 

We are who we are today, not because we trusted in the right people,

or made perfect decisions.

A lot of where we are today comes from the past - from having turned each

and every page of days gone bye.

We’ve come to appreciate life and the complicated mix of experiences

we've lived. 

Each one just as important as the other, together  have helped

define the person we are.

Why do we suffer?

We suffer because in each of life’s struggles and the way we deal with them,

are the gifts that shape and complete our lives. 

A divinely inspired gift source of strength and fortitude designed

to ensure that we will go on.

Make it a grateful día!  

Saturday, June 25, 2011

Time is running out for Mexico.

Hundreds of my beloved family members are surviving the daily chaos

on the streets of Mexico.

Although they have not stopped praying for a miracle, many are quietly

beginning to give up hope.

Many have left their homes, their jobs, schools, relatives and friends for distant towns.

Each leaving their hard earned dreams behind.

Moving to a life of uncertainty, is their only certainty. 

All are leaving behind threats, coerced bribes, loud gun fire,

and spontanious street battles, where bullets flying past and the mandatory

evening newscasts are filled with violent stories

of still more broad day light assasinations.

Living in Cd. Juárez is unbearable.

Panic and anxiety permeate the desert air.

The stench of the dying is suffocating.

The assassinations and brutal killings throughout Mexico will have

a much wider implication and consequence for decades to come.

Cd. Juárez continues to suffer grievously from the effects of the

on going turf wars between the Sinaloa and Juarez drug cartels.

Their lawlessness is on the verge of threatening to push our Mexico

into the "narco-state" status, much like the one Colombia lived through in the 90's.

Massacres, beheadings, YouTube videos featuring cartel torture sessions

and even car bombs have become common in Juárez and throughout the country. 

One thing is clear if the government doesn't end the war,

this war will ultimately end Mexico.

It takes a matter of hours after a family has moved away,

and then like vultures vandals will arrive and carry off window panes,

doors, copper pipes, even light fixtures,

until there is nothing but a graffiti-covered shell surrounded

by yards strewn with rotting food.

The once simple and enjoyable trip to work, taking the kids to school

or going to the grocery store is now more like running a gauntlet.

The trick is to speed just within the tolerable judicial limits from

one place to another, not staring at anyone yet with eyes wide open

and with every moment inbetween in paraniod dispair.

The only moments of comfort and solace are found when family

members have each reached their destinations and all have

checked in with one another.

It is that uncomfortable relief and joy that only comes when everyone

has made it safely to wherever they were headed. 

In Mexico homes are now the only oasis.

Many look like fortresses, where they once were quaint homes.

Grey reinforced 10 foot high concrete and cement walls have

replaced the once ornate black rod ironed fences.

What were once beautiful gardens are now filled with dirt and large boulders,

to provide an additonal defense barrier.

Windows have now been boarded up and wooden front doors

have now been replaced by industrial strength steel ones.

Each with arrays of deadbolts and security locks and no peep holes. 

Juárez has become unrecognizable.

Thousands of residents have fled.

Over 7400 businesses have closed.

The smiles and friendly gestures once shared by strangers

have been replaced by cold suspicious stares.

I can vivdly remember walking the boulevards and

downtown streets on a late Friday or Saturday night.

With friends in tow, I remember all my old hang outs including 

taking in a night cap at the traditional Kentucky Club.

My favorite was a late night steak and baked potato dinner

at Martino's which is also located on Avenida Juarez.

Life in Juárez will never be the same and it's about to get worse.

In an ominous strategy to defeat the powerful Sinaloa drug cartel,

two of the most violent drug organizations have formed

an alliance in the state of Chihuahua.

It's said that the Juárez drug cartel and the notorious Zetas

have formed a war pact.

The Zetas, formed by Mexican army deserters, are known for the use

of paramilitary tactics and brutality.

For more than three years, the Juárez drug cartel has been involved

in a bloody war with the Sinaloa drug cartel, reputedly led by

Joaquin "Chapo" Guzman, for control of the Chihuahua region

and its lucrative drug routes into the United States.

Bringing the Zetas and the Juárez cartel together will only bring more

violence to a war that has already seen more than 8,800 people

killed in Juarez alone since late 2008.

I read somewhere that it takes 20 years or more of peace to make a country,

and it takes only 20 days of war to destroy it.

Mexico is running out of time.

I will continue to pray that Mexico's Faith is rewarded,

with the peace and tranquility that it hasn't experienced in many,

many years. 

Make it a prayerful día!

Friday, June 24, 2011

The spot under your feet.

"A journey of a thousand miles begins at the spot under one's feet." - Chinese philosopher Laozi (c 604 bc - c 531 bc). 

I know its Friday and I hope everyone had an amazing week.

It may be the end of the week for most of us but also a great day

to start whatever it is you've been wanting to start..

Starting something is really important, it is almost as important

as the efforts it takes to decide to start something worthwhile.

Too often we end up spending time over thinking it,

worrying and speculating about the outcome...

all negative reasons or excuses, to not start.

No matter the size of the project, the goal or dream...

Just start it.

Just do it.

Take that first step.

Start it today!

Then work hard and keep improving.

Soon you'll realize that hard work really can pay off.

Make it a great dia.

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Free yourself.

I watched a documentary how they train elephants.

Apparently when the elephant is young and relatively weak,

it is chained to a tree by a large chain.

Eventually they only tie the elephant with just a rope.

Years later no matter how large and strong he becomes…

he continues to believe that he can't free himself.

In many ways intelligent people like ourselves are a lot

like these innocent magestic elephants.

We never stop to question our self-imposed limitations.

I need to remind myself of the limitless possibilities that exist in my life.

Begin today and do the same.

Maybe then we'll all realize that the only limitations for ourselves

are the ones we've personally created.

After all fear is simply an emotion to be dealt with, and not something extraordinarily

powerful  that should paralyze us from moving.

So today be fearless.

Set yourself FREE.

Make it a sky's the limit kind of dia!

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Another exercise for the heart..

Lately there have been tremendous opportunities to give.

Helping someone in need can leave you feeling a lot better about yourself.

Bernard Meltzer says that: It is also good way to take the focus of your own problems..
    There is no better exercise for your heart Than reaching down and helping to lift someone up.
So remember that giving back is good for your heart.

and contribute towards actually making someone’s life a little better.

Helping a total stranger feels even better..

no matter who you are helping, reach out to your family,

friends or colleagues.

They will be glad you did.

Make it a special dia for someone.

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Can you give me a hand?

Someone once asked me if I had ever really made a difference in

someone's life?

I thought for a minute and remembered several times

when I could have done more.

Still, if we made a difference to one person, just one person then we

could say our life was a success.

It doesn't have to be monetary.

It could be helping someone in need of a friend, or saving them

from loneliness, or helping someone from making a stupid mistake.

Then maybe then we could say our contribution was of significance.

But the best of Life comes from not just helping one person,

but going through Life and searching for opportunities

to helping as many people as possible.

Then we begin a chain of people helping people -

a pay it forward chain, where the very people

we "helped" go on to help others..

and those help others, and so on.

Make it a caring - hand up kind of día!

Monday, June 20, 2011

If I was saying goodbye.

I was asked recently how I would say goodbye to someone I loved?

Saying goodbye is never easy.

No matter what the reasons are, she or he could be relocating for work or choosing a different path in life.

Saying goodbye is always painful.

If you have to say goodbye - here's what I suggest…

Take a moment and accept that the person maybe gone for a long time or even forever.

From this point on, you should try and spend as much time as possible with him/her. 

Go to your favorite hang outs, do something memorable together.

Try and make all your last moments together special.

Write down all your magical moments.

Then create a card and or a special present so that they will always have something to remember you by.

If you can see her/him off at the airport, bus or train station.

Once they have moved away, you must work to keep in contact.

Call them, text them or email or yes, write them. 

Make it a priority to always stay in contact.

Remind them that the love for each other will never end.

Cry if you must and let go of all your emotions.

I promise you it will get easier.

Make it a great día!