Sunday, November 28, 2010

One small step forward.














"We can do anything you want to do, if you put your heart into it!" I can hear my Father say.

"Given the same playing field", he would add... "there is no reason why you can't be better then anyone around you!"

Today I want to help someone concentrate on taking one step forward, no matter how small.

Our attitude is the very energy that we all need to propel us forward and upward!

I must ask you, are you a positive sort of person?

Are you solution-oriented?

Do you find yourself complaining, being negative, even fearful or mean-spirited?

Whatever it is, people around you will always feel it.

And if you think for a moment... what you put out to others determines, in large measure what comes right back to you.

As you step into the new year, changing your ATTITUDE is absolutely necessary if you want to improve your life and the life of the people around you.

Many of us struggle with these kinds of changes all the time.

We may wonder why, no matter how hard we’ve tried, our lives are still stuck and can't engage another gear... we feel like we're in first gear. 

So too will your relationships lack depth and a true connection.

You can bet that your finances will never get beyond a certain level.

And those big plans we have, just can’t seem to get off the ground.

Sorry to bring this all up.

But ask yourself that one BIG question... Why?

Well, for starters changing your ATTITUDE requires some real personal growth.

I've never met anyone that could fake their way into a positive ATTITUDE.

You can't "will" yourself to being positive.

At least, not for any significant length of time.

But if you really want to change and you follow these simple steps, not only will you transform your ATTITUDE, but your life as you know it will become more enjoyable.

First thing first...

Let go of the past.

Whatever you've been holding on to is keeping you "stuck."

Let go of whatever preconceived stereotype of yourself or of what others think you should be.

Release those deep-seated grudges or resentments you've been carrying around.

It doesn’t matter what it is, you must decide if it’s in the past, it’s going to be left back there... it's over and done with!

A big part of having a great ATTITUDE is forgiveness.

I would start by writing up a list of the people in your life, yes, I know it is going to take your writing stuff down.

Write down everyone that you resent, have resented or need to make amends with.

I mean go back to your childhood or teenage years, and list all those acquaintances, break ups, friends and family members alike. 

Now take a deep breath and begin reading each name and as you do I want you to quietly forgive every single one of them.

Say something like "Margarita, you broke my heart but I forgive you and today I release every painful memory." 

Pay close attention to those closest to you, your loved ones, your parents, siblings, spouse and if you’re older, your children.

Now before you begin, I want you to put yourself on the very top of your list.

Forgive yourself for all the mistakes you’ve made or that you believe you’ve made.

Just let it all go, we need to begin anew... to start over again much like a fresh start.

Next step is an important one.

I believe in looking reality in the face and staring it down.

I learned long ago that you can't change something if you refuse to see it for what it is.

We all encounter situations and people that somehow end up consistently upseting or hurting us. 

Maybe it is something else, like our weight, an addiction or bad habit... large or small, a perceived failure or loss, or a close relationship that is just not working.

Look it straight in the eye and say out loud, “I acknowledge and accept that "whatever it is that is upsetting you" is what’s happening to me."

What you are doing is acknowleding and fully accepting the "situation" or "feeling."

Now you know what it is and you have far more clarity on how to change it.

Like I began this blog -

Today I will concentrate on taking one step forward no matter how small.

We must take tiny steps forward each day.

No matter how big or how far off your goal may be, if we feel like we will never get there.

Guess what - you won't.

This often feeds into our negative ATTITUDE.

This is often what happens when we are trying to change a personal habit or relationship pattern.

The key is to break the big goal into very small steps.

Take one tiny step forward every day.

Any action forward, no matter how small, will do wonders for how you feel about yourself.

You will begin to trust life again.

Accept that life is working out just the way it needs to and get out of the way.

Continuing working really hard, do everything you know possible and even if things are still not working out keep moving forward. 

Chances are you’re getting in the way of your own progress.

Know that there is a higher power than you, who ultimately is calling the shots.

Like they say "Let GOD, and let GO!"

I am not saying to not do all that you can on your part, but allowing things to flow is critical in making life work.

You are important! You have worth! Know your value!

Others will not value you unless and until you show that you value yourself.

So if you haven't already begin to make changes and work hard to take better care of yourself.

I also need you to do something special every day.

Whether it's exercising, eat healthier, taking a long hot shower, getting a massage, reading a book, meditating, or praying.

Be grateful and learn to ask for help and be willing to help.

No one has ever or will ever accomplish anything alone.

Success draws success.

Success stems from partnership, teamwork and community.

So let's get more involved in your neighborhood and your community.

Open your heart and be generous.

Be humble and both offer help and ask for help.

Be grateful.

Of all the steps I just wrote, undoubtedly the most important is practicing gratitude.

Always try and focus on what is good in your life.

Make a list of all the things you have, the qualities you’re blessed with, the people you love and who love you.

I actually keep my list under my bed (you'll have to read the very first blog I ever wrote almost a year ago to know why).

Read your list before you go to bed and every morning first thing when you wake up!

Make it a great dia!