Friday, April 30, 2010

Who are you?

Transparency is liberating!

We are many things to many people - who are you to YOU?

Make it a REAL dia!

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Don't wait for someone to bring you flowers...

Life has an amazing way of teaching us about relationships.

Quite often the lessons are hard to decipher but their messages are ife impacting.

How many of us have learned the subtle differences of relationship?

We know that a kiss is a gift, but some of us think kisses are contracts.

How many of us have learned the subtle differences of loving?

We should know that there is a difference between being embraced and being held down.

How many of us have learned the subtle differences of true companionship?

We should know that having company doesn’t always mean security.

How many of us have learned the subtle difference between someone holding our hand and that of someone chaining our soul?

Here are some great affirmations...

Life please teach me… to accept my pain by forgiving.

Life please teach me… to accept my defeats with my head held up high.

Life please teach me… to accept my difficulties with my eyes open wide.

Life please teach me… to accept my failures with grace.

Life please teach me… to accept my disappointments through grief and letting go.

Life please teach me… to accept my challenges with resiliency.

Life and experience have a way of teaching us about relationships. Often times the lessons are hard to accept but their message are life impacting.

So go plant your seeds and water them often and soon you’ll have a beautiful flower garden.

Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.

Make it a great dia!

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Work to understand rather than be understood...

Still having residual neck pain from last Friday's ESI injections and so I am wide awake.

I was thinking about the people in our lives that are quick to judge.

Sure hope we aren't one of them.

I first heard this quote from a good friend (she is a therapist) and it is a powerful motto to try and live by, "Always work to understand rather than to be understood."

Just like a bright sunny day to a snow covered field - nothing melts distrust, judgement and hostility away...  like an honest attempt to UNDERSTAND.

Make it an understanding sort of dia!

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Show no fear...

My Viejita always taught us to always stand up!  "Be strong and adopt a confident posture, even when you are standing in fear," she would tell us.  

Our family's “fearless attitude” originated from...  a tiny, fearless 4'6 100Lb. uneducated woman - whose simple but wise advise about speaking up and acting with confidence "no matter the perceived outcome," reverberates in every fiber of our extended family today.

She taught us to show confidence even when the odds of success were against us.

That we could overcome any challenge if we showed "corazon y coraje," heart and courage.  

She often refered back to a quote by the famous Gen. Emiliano Zapata, the one about...

"It is better to die on your feet than to live on your knees."   

Maybe it was a bit dramatic but the point she meant to make was clear.

That we should never be willing to be brought down to our knees without a fight, no matter the circumstances. 

"Be proud of who you are and stay determined!" I can hear her saying.

I've learned that one day I might have to surrender to fate, but today I will not surrender to fear. 

Today I will also refuse to be overcome by my own self-doubt.

It is only when we stop trusting ourselves in battle, that we risk losing the war.

Make it a great dia!

Monday, April 26, 2010

Need faith...

I attended a good friend's church service yesterday. The pastor's sermon was about Faith. He spoke about how we needed to walk by faith and not by sight. I've been going through some challenges lately and so it was as if each word was being directed at me. I am grateful that my friend invited me to go worship with her.

I had to hear this sermon to remember that people and circumstance may let us down, but faith never will.

Trust in that support and believe that faith and faith alone will provide.

Faith is the source of our strength and be assurred that it will provide the way and comfort.

Make it a great dia and week!

Sunday, April 25, 2010

Letting go proves to be our real strength...

We all face many challenges. Daily obstacles to overcome.

One thing I've learned is that too often we forget that real loss ONLY occurs, when we lose something that we love more than ourselves.  

So give yourself permission to let go. 

Don't hold on thinking the experience will make you stronger.

Sometimes letting go proves to be our real strength!

Make it a great dia!

Saturday, April 24, 2010

Love the bad once to appreciate the good forever...

I had four steroid injections into my neck yesterday morning

(residual affects of my rear end collision from July).

So after my outpatient treatment I came home and spent time watching

a few old western.

I love the old West and all their characters.

I especially like movies with Randolph Scott, Alan Ladd, Tom Mix, Roy Rogers,

Clint Eastwood and John Wayne.

My favorite heroes and villains are Wyatt Earp, Billy The Kid, Doc Holiday,

The Lone Ranger and Butch Cassidy & The Sundance kid.

I also like all their creative quotes, like "He's so mean he'd steal a fly

from a blind spider," or "He had a voice like a burro with a bad cold."

Dozing off and on, I heard a quote that also stuck out.

After a long nap with an ice pillow stuck to my neck I decided to research the quote.


It was attributed to Mae West.

"A woman has got to love a bad man once or twice in her life

to be thankful for a good one."

The funny thing is that this old western quote is applicable

to pretty much everything we experience in life.

A relationship - a vacation - a meal - even our jobs.

Make it a grateful dia!

Friday, April 23, 2010

I’d rather be a diamond...

“Diamonds are only lumps of coal that stuck to their jobs.” - B.C. Forbes

I know you are probably saying, what the heck does this mean to me?

Well looking around on any given Friday I'll see “good” people losing

a whole day’s worth of productivity in anticipation of the weekend.

Then there are others that will continue this song and dance on Monday;

complaining about the weekend being too short or begrudging

the start of the new week.

I don’t know about you but I’d rather be a diamond then a piece of coal.

So start a "positive rebellion" this morning….

Let’s help others break out of their TGIF mentality.

It would be a lot more profitable for everyone!

Make it a great dia!

Thursday, April 22, 2010

Don't risk your future on yesterday's worries...

My Viejita would often say, "El que pierde tiempo lamentándose del pasado,

pierde su presente y arriesga el futuro." 

Meaning if you spend your time regretting the past, you will end up losing

the present and put your future at risk.

When its time to do something - it's time.

Just do it!

Make it a great dia!

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Follow your heart-centered decisions...

Maybe Snoopy was not making heart centered decisions...

We all have a unique power of understanding, which enables us

to make day to day decisions. 

Each decision cumulatively transforms our day, 

and creates the life we have chosen.  

The decisions we make are key to opening the doors we desire,

and closing any others we need kept locked.

Our live's require that we constantly make choices... we stagnate when

we fail to make decisions.

Moreover our lives flourish when we make those difficult decisions

that somehow nudge us onto a different path.

One thing I've learned over the years is not to "over think" any decision

- especially if I am trying to please someone or just seeking their approval.

Overthinking inevitably makes us less confident in our decision making, 

and worse dilutes our self esteem and makes us question ourselves.

So follow your heart-centered path and make those tough decisions.

Real power is born in that decisive moment, where we are willing to follow

our heart wherever it may lead us.

Make this a great dia!

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

That huge world out there...

Steven J. Ross wrote, "There are those who work all day.

Those who dream all day.

And those who spend an hour dreaming before setting to work to fulfill those dreams.

Go into the third category because there’s virtually no competition."

Stretch your horizons, as far as you can see and even further.

Remember always that there's a huge world of possibilities...

free for the taking and waiting for you.

Make it a great dia!

Monday, April 19, 2010

Go for it...

Lately I have had a few moments of self doubt.

One of my greatest assets has always been the ability to trust in myself.

When we play it safe we lose our edge.  So to help you - help me...

We must give ourselves permission to take risks or be willing to make mistakes.

We have to tell ourselves that its OK with being wrong every once in a while.

We need to give life’s challenges a tough ride, rather than sitting still afraid 

of failing and doing nothing.

We must consider the prospect of failure, but not get preoccupied

with needless worry.

We all grow from a failure we’ve experienced – much more than from

any type of success.

Success somehow never tests our resolve in the way that failure does and will.

And though success has its challenges, we learn more about ourselves when

we take on challenges that involve risk.

Remember, when we play it safe, we lose our vitality and we lose our edge.

When we second guess ourselves we diminish our “being.

So " Go for it! "

Make it a great dia!

Sunday, April 18, 2010


It's a beautiful Sunday and it has been raining all weekend.

My favorite kind of day - cloudy, cool and rainy. I've always liked this poem.

IF by Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs,

and blaming it on you,

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you but make allowance

for their doubting too,

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting or being lied about, don’t deal in lies

or being hated, don’t give way to hating and yet don’t look too good,

nor talk too wise:

If you can dream and not make dreams your master,

If you can think and not make thoughts your aim;

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster and treat those two impostors just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken, twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, and stoop and build ‘em up

with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings and risk it all on one turn

of pitch-and-toss and lose and start again at your beginnings and never breath

a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew...

To serve your turn long after they are gone and so hold on when there is nothing

in you except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, or walk with kings

–nor lose the common touch,

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;

If all men count with you, but none too much,

If you can fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,

Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it.

Make it a great dia!

Saturday, April 17, 2010

In the interpersonal horizon...

Do you remember the last time you hugged somebody or somebody hugged you?

I’ve met people whose answer was “I can’t remember.” 

Sadly they probably come from what I call a family with LDOA

- or limited display of affection. 

Several of these very same friends are now huggers

– especially since they’ve come to know me.

I come from a long lineage of huggers. In my mind no one

should be deprived of a hug, especially when it comes to sharing

a moment of joy or grief. 

In our family it’s something that we have done all our entire life,

and something that comes naturally.

Have you read the quote that says,  "We all need four hugs a day for survival,

eight for maintenance and 12 for growth?"

These numbers may be scientifically inaccurate, but the following story is true.

On Oct. 17, 1995 Kyrie and Brielle were born to Heidi and Paul Jackson,

at the Medical Center of Central Massachusetts in Worcester, Mass.

At just 28 weeks of age the twins were a full 12 weeks ahead of their due date.

The standard hospital procedure was to place any set of multiple births

in their separate incubators.

This was thought to reduce the risk of infection.

So the two tiny Jackson girls were placed in separate incubators in the hospital’s

new neonatal intensive care unit.

One of the twins began to gain weight quickly and tended to sleep calmly.

Kyrie's birth weight had been a mere two pounds, three ounces at birth.

But she quickly began thriving and gaining more weight. Brielle, her twin however;

had many complications especially with breathing and her little heart was also

having heart rate problems, causing her oxygen level in her blood to be low.

Further complicating matters was that Brielle was very slow to gain any weight.

On Nov. 12, less than a month later, Brielle the tiniest twin’s condition suddenly

turned critical.

Her half-inch thick, tiny arms and legs and lips began to turn bluish-grey in color

due to a drop in oxygen.

As she gasped for air, her heart rate became erratic and it kept spiking higher,

and higher.

All that her parents could do was watch and pray, terrified that their

little angel could die.

That morning Gayle Kasparian, their main Nurse, after exhausting all the

conventional medical procedures decided to try one that she had read about.

A procedure that was common in parts of Europe – but untried in the US.

After all she was quoted as saying, “Desperate moments called for

desperate measures.”

After getting all the necessary approvals and with the parent’s permission

the nurse placed the twins in the same incubator.

The nurse made sure that they were facing each other and laid them as close

as possible to one another.

The article said that no sooner had the nurse closed the incubator glass door,

when the tiniest of the two, Brielle snuggled closer into Kyrie.

And then a “miraculous” and incredible thing happened – tiny Brielle

began to calm down.

Within minutes, her blood-oxygen saturation readings increased,

and a more normal pinkish color began to come back throughout her tiny body.

As she calmed down enough to fall asleep, her twin Kyrie somehow embraced

her smaller sister.

Brielle's heart rate began to stabilize and her temperature rose back up

to normal and remained steady.

Several weeks later the Jackson twins were both physically fit to be able

to go home.

The article said that the parents continued to place them in the same bed,

and that their twins continued to thrive.

This photo of Kyrie hugging her little sister Brielle was titled "the Rescuing Hug,"

and the story appeared in both Reader’s Digest and Life magazine.

It made this tiny pair of twins famous (they are now two healthy fourteen year olds).

But more importantly their story of survival spurred a growing interest in the research of

medical co-bedding of all critically ill preemies.

This practice of developmental neo-natal care is used in NICUs around the world today.

It involves many aspects of the critically ill baby, from helping the babies feel more

secure and developing more normal sleep patterns, to decreasing stimulation

from noise, lights or procedures that come from repeated handling of them.

This research also uncovered many other benefits for these tiny infants;

including much shorter hospital stays, lower hospital expenses, fewer complications,

improved weight gain and enhanced bonding between the babies and the parents.

One other article I read on the benefits of ‘hugging” that was written

by researchers at the University of North Carolina in Chapel Hill stated that “cuddling”

with our spouses was good for lowering our blood pressure,

helped strengthen our immune systems, helped to reduces stress,

tended to improve our sleep and was even a natural antidote for depression.

So just like the article about the Jackson twins, the word "miraculous," 

is associated with the benefits of a tiny hug.

We need to come to understand the “miraculous” difference we can make to

one another when we make it a point to come in contact with each other.

Our small gestures; our hugs, a warm handshake, a pat on the back, a smile,

a peck or a kiss is all we need to affirm one another. It’s not difficult to learn

- we’re all born with this amazing capability!

Look at tiny Brielle and her twin sister Kyrie, they knew this long before they

were even conscious of it.

I loved this story… tiny Kyrie's hug not only embraced Brielle but really touched me.

It helped me remember that we all have an innate responsibility to our loved ones

- one another – our colleagues – and our neighbors here and around the world.

That by embracing them we can transform a LIFE.

As we look around we all need to try to keep from getting all caught up

in the daily struggles and challenges. Don’t forget what LIFE is really all about.

Be ever mindful of the fact that our earthy destiny is about our LIVING,

and LOVING in the interpersonal horizon of SHARING and RELATIONSHIPS.

Go HUG as many people as you can this weekend!

Make it a great dia!

Friday, April 16, 2010

Ignorance is Bliss...

A friend of mine Toku (concert pianist and professor of piano in Boston),

gave me his favorite Japanese proverb - “Shiranu ga hotoke”.

He said you could translate it as, ”If you don’t know, you’re in Heaven,”

or sort of like “Ignorance is Bliss.”

Make it a blissful dia!

Thursday, April 15, 2010

Should your dreams turn to dust...

Our dreams depend on our determination, much more then talent or skill.

So when I read this quote I had to really laugh out loud.

"When your dreams turn to dust, vacuum." - Author Unknown

Next time you feel your dreams are looking a little dusty,


Make it a determined dia!

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Never say you can't say you'll try...

"Never say you can't say you'll try," was an old saying my Viejita used to

remind us to show determination.

She was always reminding us to never give up even when things were tough. 

It made sense then and it makes sense now... how can we achieve anything

if we're inclined to take the easy way out? 

We have to bear down and see things through.

As I read a powerful book the other night I ran across this verse

in a section called Ecclesiastes.  

"I returned, and saw under the sun, that the race is not to the swift,

nor the battle to the strong,"  and it went on to say "Neither yet bread to the wise,

nor yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favour to men of skill;

but time and chance happeneth to them all."

Don't ever QUIT.

Make it a perservering kind of dia!

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Are you listening?

I’m grateful that I’ve always been sensitive to a voice within.

A voice with subtle messaging.

That dwells deep inside in a tiny space in thought.

Some say it’s part of our inner consciousness.

Not the one that belongs to "knowing what's the right thing to do,"

but one deeper at our core.

The one that is an important part of our higher being and our uniquely authentic self.

Not to be mistaken for self defeating thoughts.

Nor the critical, inner critic.

Not to be confused with our mental clutter.

Its the one with an emotional feeling, a voice not heard in reason

or more calculated thought.

It sends up advise ever so gentle and yet always wise.

It a tiny voice that centers us – that enlightens and brings us peaceful confidence.

Do you hear it?  Are you LISTENING?

Let that emotion be your guide.

Think too long or hard however; and you’ll miss it when it sounds.

Make it a great dia!

Monday, April 12, 2010

Conscience change?

Lately I have been exercising with change - exercising "conscience,"

change is never easy.

Never surrender your self respect for self interest.

As Bert Murray so accurately wrote, "Conscience is that still, small voice

that is sometimes too loud for comfort."

Be proud of every purposeful decision you make this dia!

Sunday, April 11, 2010

What will you do with your gift today?

Did you know we will be given a huge gift today?

We will recieve 86,400 seconds today!

What will you do with this huge gift?

I'm working hard to make the 31,536,000 seconds this year, matter.

Make the most of your gift this dia!

Saturday, April 10, 2010

Fight or flee...

We’ve had a rough going since 2008, and it’s still a bit tough.

The world’s economy sat on the brink of recession with financial experts

predicting that the situation only getting worse before it got better.

In March the number of unemployed people was 15.0 million for a national

unemployment rate of 9.7 percent.

Although we see many signs of improvement with over 162,000 jobs added…

for many life is still tainted by an air of fear and uncertainty.

We begin to doubt our own abilities to get through challenges and difficulties.

Often times we start to second guess ourselves and a few of us even stop

trusting in ourselves.

Worse yet we stop trusting in a higher power to bring about the favorable

outcome we desire.

We begin to buy into what our “Inner Critic” says about us and our situation,

which in turn creates fear.

Whenever uncertainty arises in our lives, the future may appear somewhat unpredictable.

This in turn can end up causing us to feel a sense of fear.

So how does uncertainty trigger fear?

When we face the possibility of a serious problem or getting rewarded

- uncertainty arises.

We don’t really know the outcome and since anything can happen..

our body's in self defense will trigger its survival mechanism.

The one that is preset to expect the worst and increase the chance of survival.

This “fight or flight” response prepares us for survival, which is why we “fear,”

and “worry” when we face uncertainty.

All this happens quickly and automatically at a subconscious level.

Then if the outcome was terrible, at least we were prepared to fight.

If the outcome was good, we lived to fight another day and move on with our lives.

I wholeheartedly believe that fear is helpful for us to survive danger, however;

it’s unhealthy to go into that state often or have it triggered for a long period of time.

It's not only physically damaging and stresses the body; but it also psychologically

tears us up and in the end doesn’t help us solve our problems.

It’s not easy to know when to stop and fight and when to flee. 

I do know that uncertainty brings fear, and certainty brings confidence.

What we can all do is to plan ahead and always do our best by being prepared,

studying hard or working smart to increase the chances of success.

This will raise the level of certainty and our confidence.

So I end today's blog with much gratitude. 

Let us never become so overwhelmed and disillusioned with the state of the world

around us, that we fail to show gratitude for the many smaller miracles in our lives.

Gratitude for the many daily assurances we receive from our loved ones,

our families, friends, colleagues and even our pets.

Gratitude is the fight!

Fear is the flight.

Make it a gratitude filled dia!

Friday, April 9, 2010

I'm leaving it all under the bed...

From this day forward I want you to begin each day

bright and early - and be grateful.

Smile at the dawn as you wake up to la VIDA!

Take a moment to welcome the people in your life.

Than take a moment to truly embrace the concept of unconditional love.

Approach your day - your studies - your work with more grateful eyes.

As dawn awakens you, or maybe the kids, a pet or the trusty alarm clocks

wake you...  make sure you do more than just wake up.

Wake up to LIFE…  leave any judgement, envy, resentment,

jealousy, selfishness or fears under your bed.

Make it a great dia!

Thursday, April 8, 2010

People in our lives...

"Every person, all the events of your life are there because you have

drawn them there.

What you choose to do with them is up to you."  - Richard Bach

Have you ever wondered why we end up attracting the people

or even events that we end up attracting?

I am a strong believer in a predestined connectivity playing a part,

in our lives and it being important to our journey.

And that we are struck at our weakest point, because there is where

we need strengthening.

Be grateful for each person in your LIFE this dia!

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Believe in yourself...

"It is infinitely more exciting to live a life of catastrophic failures than a life of could-haves, should-haves and would-haves."  - M.H Meng

I believe Life should be one of principal... 

with values we wish to live our lives by.

Living each day as gratefully as possible.

Believing in ourselves based on a grateful day to day existence. 

A life of daring to push through each day,

with the determination of making our dreams a reality.

Never lose sight of who you are, your values and your personal beliefs.

Believe in yourself!

Make it a great dia!

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

The power to change a LIFE...

The ultimate and everlasting power within us is to LOVE.

To give LOVE outwards...

And bring LOVE inwards...

and then stand back and watch what happens to your VIDA.

Make it a loving dia!

Monday, April 5, 2010

A moment in time experience...

I was up late last night listening to some old pop music – songs I had

not heard by Engelbert Humperdinck.

I really enjoyed “Love the world” but “This moment in time” song made me think

about one “moment in time” experience I recently had.

I think we all have experienced our own "moment in time" moments.

Moments that are so profound, that they are literally burned into our memories forever.

A special moment or one special event we’ve shared with someone.

My “moment in time” experience was an act of kindness bestowed to me

by a dear friend.

It marked a time in my life where its sole affect made me oblivious

to the world around me.

My "moment” was indeed very special.

I can honestly say that I was shown unconditional love.

I will forever share a special connection to my dear friend

– who showed incredible kindness and gifted me with an unconditional act of love.

I will always have this "moment in time" experience stored in my memory.

A place I can escape to and relive the emotion.

It was indeed a very special gift of kindness.

More importantly it is a gift that I intend to “gift” forward one day.

What is your “moment in time” experience?

Make it a great dia!

Sunday, April 4, 2010

If you open your "ojos"

I was talking with a dear friend about a visit I had taken to see my Viejita one weekend.

With many people celebrating Easter today I thought it would an interesting story to retell.

I had driven to visit my Mother and Sister over the extended Memorial Day holiday

last year - as I did often.

My Sister was still nursing a torn ligament in her ankle and my Mother continued

to battle what she called “her annoying stomach ache” but in reality was,

the uterine cancer she had been diagnosed with the Spring before.

Late that Saturday evening we were sitting in the living room reminiscing

about our relatives and family members back in our village

– especially my favorite Uncle and my Grandfather who had passed on.

My Mother at 94 years of age tended to remind us jokingly and often

(something she had done for the past 20 some years) about how she was

“living on borrowed time”.. brought up the subject of “el Cielo”

Spanish for - Heaven.

My Viejita looked around the room and said, “You two need to realize that heaven

is not exactly what you think.”

My Sister looked over at me and gave me one of her retired teacher raised

left eyebrow gesture.

After all, this was coming from a lifelong Catholic and I must add very devoted

Christian lady.

We didn’t know what was coming next, so I gently took her hand and asked

the inevitable question, “So Viejita (I’ve always called my Mom – my little old woman),

what do you think Heaven looks like?”

She said jokingly, “Well I have had a lot of time to think about it, this past century.

I know with some certainty that there are no golden escalators, like at that Mall

where we sometimes go.. you know where you go up and up?"

I also don’t think there is anyone peeking down on you from those big white

fluffy clouds high up in the skies, no, no.. not even your favorite crazy Uncle”

- she meant my dear Tío Arnoldo.

She went on and in the next few minutes began to share her wisdom on her

version of “el Cielo”,

“Mijos (abbreviated for “mis hijos” – or my children) Heaven is taking

this “borrowed time” and spending this special time – with everyone we Love”.

Looking around the room she said, “I think Heaven is here in this living room.

Not there, as she pointed slowly to the window… on the outside of the house,

and peeking in the window”.

She then took a breath, and thought a moment and said,

“Heaven is spending time in my garden and listening to my music,

(older ballads she tends to play loud because of her poor hearing)

with all my Nietos (Grandchildren) or even listening to their loud

“thumping and yelling” music they like”.

“Heaven I think is sitting here watching all my Grandchildren yelling and laughing

as they watch los Vaqueros (Cowboys) on TV run around after each other all

afternoon long on Sundays”.

(She meant the Dallas Cowboys which we are all big fans of).

She leaned towards me and then smiled and said, “Heaven is going through

our old boxes of pictures and almost feeling like we are there with all those

people we took those pictures with.

My Mom thought for a minute as if searching her memory to find the next

nugget and said, “Heaven is also about forgiving someone you quit talking

to a long time ago, because… who knows why – it was probably something foolish anyway”.

My Sister nodded for she had just mentioned a falling out with one

of her daughters-in-law earlier.

“Heaven is the sudden arrival of all those birds (morning doves that she feeds

daily in her backyard) when they come to visit me each morning”.

She than added, “You know I don’t even mind those loud chirping black crows”.

“Heaven is when I can pray peacefully in my favorite chair (she was joking about

her wheelchair), or relaxing after a nice warm bath in my flannel robe”.

“I think Heaven is remembering loved ones at a moment that you were

the happiest in life.

Like when I first met your Father and raising all thirteen of you.”

(Today only eleven of my brothers and sisters are still alive).

“Heaven is thinking of them as if they were still the young (guapos)

beautiful people that you married”.

Then she added with her constant sense of humor…

“Not fatter or with less hair on their heads as they look now

– I will always love your Father, I don’t think real love ever grows old”.

“Heaven is having a sunny day so perfect that it warms up this cold house

in December and you wish it would stay that warm forever”.

“Heaven is watching La Gitana (The Gypsy a 10 lb. tabby) sleep.

How I enjoy just watching her stretch this way and that.”

“I know Heaven is out on our front porch…as I sit and rock on that old rocker,

and watch the cars go bye”.

“Heaven is remembering all the good times we had as children

– all those special Sundays with your Abuelitos, Tíos and Tías,

brothers and sisters, primos and all our neighbors.”

She looked around and then asked us to come closer, “You know what I have

come to know after all these years?”

She gently tapped my hand and smiled at my Sister and I,

“God is a smart man, He has given us a small part of Heaven right here

in our home, and he reveals “Los Cielos” to us one little piece at a time,

if you just open your ojos”.

I gave my Viejita a hug… and told her that she was so right…

I am so glad she shared her description of heaven that Saturday…

a memory I will love and cherish forever.

She made us realize that it’s was easy to forget that we all had a piece

of Heaven on earth.

Have a beautiful Easter!

Saturday, April 3, 2010

Every heart has the power to heal another...

I was watching Noticias con Joaquin Doriga last night - the Walter Cronkite of Mexico.

There is still so much to do to help our neighbors in Haiti, Chile and Mexico.

Countries and peoples that have experienced natural devastation in just

the past few months. 

Enormous devastation, homelessness, as well as pain and in need of healing.

In every heart, there is the power to do it.

Make it a dia where you join them in spirit and help with their healing.

Send a prayer, a positive thought or money - GIVE.

Often times you will find that by helping others, we end up finding healing ourselves.

Make it a great dia!

Friday, April 2, 2010

If only it was this easy...

We all come with our own set of LIFE instructions.

If we never bother to try and read them we will never really know how

to assemble our true selfs.

What if these four instructions were deeply enbedded into our psyche?

 Make it a great dia!

Thursday, April 1, 2010


It's a new month and with it come more experiences and new challlenges.

Life has a way of challenging us.

Most of our difficulties are caused by our own expectations

 – when things do not turn out the way we hoped.

Maybe they are also helped along by the big obstacles and small stumbling

blocks that materialize in our paths at times.

No matter what the challenge may be, it always helps to know we have someone

in our corner.

I have been blessed to have people in my life who have always been there

for me and whose advice and insight has been beneficial.

There is no greater blessing in life than knowing we can count on at least

one person to stand up and say, "I believe in you!"

Someone that conveys their support, enthusiasm and confidence in us especially

when we could really use it.

Fortunately life also has a way of sending us people, that show up unannounced

to nurture us when we most need it.

They come to share a smile, a small moment of happiness, optimistic expressions

of hope or the warmth that only another’s heart can bring.

You too can brighten someone’s soul; but don’t wait for a difficult time to be there,

rather show your support in an unexpected moment.

Whatever tomorrow might hold, a new dawn always awaits on the horizon.

Be that sunrise, that someone who cares enough to believe in someone.

I believe we all were put on earth to serve a bigger purpose…

and to be here for each other in one way or another.

Sent here for those times in life, when a little motivation and understanding

will go a long way toward turning the day around for someone.

Here for those times when someone in our life has forgotten how special they

are to us and the world.



and always be ENCOURAGING!

Life is challenging... communicate what's in your heart NOW.

Make it a great dia!